Be assertive and show interest. Most guys, like me, will not approach or even show interest unless there is at least some interest directed by the woman. To me, these are the most impressive, classy women that exist. Wondering what to say while online dating? When asked about what a woman should say in an online dating message, the most popular way to break the ice is just saying hi. After that, try telling a man what you like about his profile or what you first noticed about him—that was the second most popular way to start chatting.
And, believe it or not, talking about yourself was a popular option too. Most men listed telling them something about yourself as the third best way to get a conversation going. Leave the past behind. Lots of us, both men and women, have had bad relationships or dating experiences that have hurt us or made us hesitant. Leave them in the past. This could be a wonderful opportunity in front of you. Be who you are, not who you think a man wants you to be.
I know, I know, being yourself is probably one of the lamest pieces of dating advice, but it also happens to be true. When asked what women do that turns them on, different men listed different qualities.
One man wanted a romantic, another said he wanted a woman who was into sports. Hold her gaze for a few seconds then slowly look away.
Look into her eyes again. Don't stare because that's just creepy. Smile when she is talking. When you go out in a group of friends, let her catch you looking at her throughout the evening. Listen to every word that she says. Ask her questions about herself. Ask about the things that she likes such as her favorite band, movie, or book. Give her sincere compliments and try to be as specific as possible. If you can make her feel good about herself, she is likely to want to spend more time with you.
Change the environment in which you hang out. Try going to a romantic restaurant instead of your usual hangout. If he has a problem talking about this right here, then something's wrong. First, find out how he feels about family. What are his views on it? Does he want a family? How does he feel about children? If you have a child, tell your man about him or her—it's his business to know, but more important, it's your business to find out if he sees himself being a father. If he doesn't want kids and you do, then you can stop all of this right now.
Please know that if a man says he doesn't want kids, he's probably not going to change his mind, regardless of the intensity of his feelings for you. Moreover, if he doesn't like kids and you already have them, where, exactly, is this relationship going? Next, ask him about his relationship with his mother. It's the first relationship a man has with a woman, and if he has a good track record with her, then chances are he knows how to treat a woman with respect and has some kind of idea of how to profess, provide, and protect not only a woman but a potential family, too.
We learn to protect her and provide for her; we learn about the basic core of love for a woman from her. Indeed, if a man is at odds with his mother, it's a safe bet that he's going to be at odds with you. If you hear any part of "Man, me and my mother? We just don't get along.
After you find out how he feels about his mother, ask him about his father. If he had a great relationship with his dad, then he was probably raised with a core set of values that he'll bring to your potential home together.
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Now, I understand that a whole host of men grew up without fathers in their households, but chances are that the man you're interested in had a male role model in his life who showed him the ropes of manhood, or perhaps the absence of his own father taught him a few things about what he doesn't want to do when he becomes a father. At any rate, ask questions about his relationship with his father, and his answers are bound to reveal the kind of father he just might turn out to be. You're also going to have to ask him about his relationship with God.
Let me be direct: After all, what moral barometer does he answer to if not to God? What's going to make him even consider being loyal to you? What's going to make him do right by you and the kids?
What's going to make him feel whole? I'm not saying that you shouldn't date a man who doesn't go to church, or who has a different belief system than you. But if his core beliefs don't match up with yours, you're likely to have a problem. These next two questions should be asked after you've been talking and dating for a while. Ideally, ask them before you have parted with the cookie y'all know what I mean. If you have already had a sexual encounter with the man, you can ask these questions anyway.
The answers may hurt a little bit more, but at least you'll know. Now, this one you'll have to ask after a few dates, because he's going to need time to get to know you. But his answer will be critical because it will reveal to you what his plans for you are. If you've been out on a couple of dates and you've had lots of conversation, you know something about him, but what's more important, you want to know what he is thinking about you. You have a right to know. He was attracted to something—he liked your hair, your eyes, your legs, your outfit.
He didn't walk over there just to be walking. Beyond the initial attraction, however, men pretty much know if you're the kind of woman they're going to sleep with and keep it moving, or if they're going to stick around and see if they want more. This, you will be able to tell by his answers. Listen to his answer closely.
I assure you this is how it will go, because every man will answer this question the same exact way: I think you're the kind of woman I could see myself with," all of that generic stuff we know you want to hear. Still, this isn't the answer you should be looking for. You want to know that he's really thought about you beyond the surface. So do the follow-ups. What about me makes you think I'm kind?
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But if he says, "You remember that time when it was my mom's birthday and you called me and reminded me to pick up a card for her? That was really nice. The level of his specifics will give you yet another clue into this man's intentions for your relationship. If he can give you specifics, it means he's been listening and adding it up—he's determining if he's going to keep you, if he can see himself in a committed relationship with you.
And that could mean that you're at least on the same relationship page.
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Now this is not to be confused with what do you "think" about me—"think" and "feel" are two wholly different things. And if a man cannot tell you how he feels about you after a month of dating, it's because he doesn't feel anything for you—he just wants something. Ask a man how he feels about you, and he's going to get confused and nervous: You cut him right off and say, "No, no, I want to know how you feel about me. But you'll have to get him to answer it. Don't get upset if he doesn't answer right away: Men do not do emotion well, at all, and expressing it doesn't come easy.
He can answer questions about God and the kids and his mother, but with this question, you're asking him to look into his soul, and our DNA isn't made up for the heartfelt outpouring to just anybody. But this doesn't mean you should let up. What you're looking for in his answer is something like this: He may not be in love with you just yet, but he's crazy about you and he's probably thinking he wants to explore a long-term commitment with you, because when he starts to profess and put you in a position where he can provide for and protect you, he's seeing a future with you in it.
And this is exactly where you want to be with this guy. The "I think you're cool" answer isn't going to cut it here, ladies.